An essay on the problem(s) with Feminism, in (just over) 1000 words.

I've been thinking a lot about Feminism* lately. I was thinking about it a lot before I attended an Anarcha-Feminist (I always thought that would be Anarcho-Feminist, but they seemed quite insistent) workshop featuring an excellent discussion of Adventures In Kate Bush & Theory (no, really) and some inspiring/inspired left-leaning stand up comedy by the eminently talented Liz Ely, but more so since.

Here's my main problem with Feminism. A good deal of Feminists don't think it means what I think it means.

–noun

1.

the doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men.

2.

( sometimes initial capital letter) an organized movement for the attainment of such rights for women.

That seems pretty clear to me, and nowhere in that definition does it say you need to have ovaries to believe the attainment of the above should be sought. Many feminists, however (including, I'm lead to believe, the Glasgow Feminist Network ) believe that the possession of a penis and the possession of Feminist opinions and beliefs are mutually exclusive, and that a male Feminist is an oxymoron. I should point out at this opportunity that the organisers of the workshop mentioned, held at the Forest Cafe in Edinburgh, didn't have this problem and I was made to feel very welcome and that my opinion was as valid as anyone else's. I doubt I could articulate fully, however, how angry it makes me feel to be excluded from the conversation when that's not the case. All we're talking about is the pretty simple belief that woman are not inferior to men, and as such should have the same rights and opportunities as men. Why shouldn't I, as a man, be able to handle that? Why can they, as women, not?

The reason they can't is that they believe, not that women are equal to men, but that women are better than men. I have a problem with this. Not because I am a man and therefore viewed as inadequate. I'm pretty clear on my fellow man's faults, of which there are many. I'm no picture of perfection myself. I just can't see this as any less sexist than the belief that women are inferior to men.

I can get on board with the theory that our planet would be a far less scary place if women had more of a hand in running the place (although, sadly, our only female Prime Minister to date could be used an argument against that theory, dragging us, as she did, into just as unnecessary war as Blair), but not the conclusion that line of thought often leads to. Perhaps the reason that most, if not all, of the most dangerous and deadly weapons ever conceived were created and designed by men is that those same men were afforded the kind of education and development that women were barred from. I understand the powerful argument that men create these things because we are the destroyers as opposed to the creators of life. I know where that line of thought comes from, and it is compelling, but I don't think it's the only reason. Frustratingly, it's not even an argument that can be proved or disproved. Perhaps the most interesting ones can't be.

Anyway, that's not really what I want to discuss. One of the reasons I've been thinking about Feminism lately is that I find the term itself to be unhelpful. The professional footballer, Rohan Ricketts, recently tweeted something which I found very surprising. Something clearly had him upset, and he made a few comments you don't really expect to hear/read from footballers. Basically, he was making the point that not enough men show enough respect to women. He went on to qualify that statement by suggesting that some women don't have much respect for themselves, but that this is no excuse to take advantage of said women. (Sorry if I misrepresented your comments in any way, Rohan. If so, let me know so I can amend). Coming so soon after the comments Darren Purse, the Sheffield Wednesday captain, made on homophobia in football, hopefully many people will amend their opinions of footballers and their intellect. It's always encouraging to see evidence of thinking men within the game.

The question of respect to and for women is something which must be difficult for a young, intelligent and feminist footballer who isn't part of the pack. I imagine there must be a lot of peer pressure for this hypothetical young man who is suddenly earning vastly more money than his peers and finds women throwing themselves at him. It's a microcosm of our society in general, I think. I've been to some of the seedier clubs in this city, accompanying friends who fit the description above of women riddled with insecurities and completely lacking self-respect, trying to fend of the vultures only too happy to take advantage of them. Like I said, it must be hard for that young man to swim against the tide in this particular situation. (I should point out that I'm not saying young men shouldn't have sex with young women, or young men for that matter... just that it would be nice if it was for the right reasons.)

Part of the reason I'm talking about this is that I firmly believe that most men, most people, are feminists. Most people believe that there is nothing that makes men better than women, or women better than men. So why does our society make the distinction between a man sleeping with 20 women and a woman sleeping with 20 men? Why is this man viewed as a hero by his peers and the woman a whore by hers? One of the things that angers me most about this double standard is that many women seem happy and eager to enforce it. This isn't necessarily a double standard created and implemented by men. Why is that? I just can't understand it, and it's emblematic of the problem. Some see females as automatically more qualified as feminists purely because they are female. That is simply not the case. I and some of my male friends are more feminist in outlook than many women I know. I think a gender-neutral term is needed to refer to equality of the sexes. How many men out there hold feminist principles but wouldn't call themselves feminists because of some of the negative connotations attached to that term? I used to be one of them. Nowadays I wear the badge with pride, but it's not without it's faults. We, as feminists, are the majority. So why doesn't it feel like it?

*Please excuse the inconsistency of Feminism & feminism. I just couldn't be bothered capitalising every one.